Meeting the dude after this “silver” interval with my family.

Meeting the dude after this “silver” interval with my family.

Prashant…yes, Prashant, but not the prashant mahasagar (Pacific Ocean) in the backdrop but Prashant Jain, the one by my side here — Dil Ke Paas. The one who was with me in engineering days for four years. The one I didn’t meet since for twenty-five years. The one I met here in Sydney. Yeah, you got it, that calm, quiet, lefty, chashmoo with a bucket. Barobar bola wohich saala!

Meeting the dude after this “silver” interval with my family, and after talking to this good looking, successful Australian that he is now, also, in the aftermath of inetractions and sharing over food and drinks, while walking and sightseeing, after many rides in his car, I recalled something. It reminded me of relationships, that are hearty and from the heart, the ones we have all heard of, read of, and have seen on the screens, the ones we all have desired.

Those relationships that are like the bridge in focus, high and mighty, yet calm and quiet, always there to help you, to get you across, for you to use, to be your harbor. A harbor bridge relationship. A harbor bridge friendship. Prashant Jain friendship.

I Love My India, But After Some Shocks, Now a Little Less

I Love My India, But After Some Shocks, Now a Little Less

A few weeks ago, I boarded AI 102 heading for India from JFK Airport, New York, to see my gravely ill Mammaji. The aircraft was half-full. For a passenger in a long-duration economy flight, an almost empty cabin is pleasing. But the entrepreneur in me also saw that Air India’s Maharaja was struggling to attract passengers.

I hear the great airline is now on sale. The Maharaja is more of a Bahadur Shah Zafar today than an Akbar or an Ashoka (which I remember were names of IA’s original elite Boeing 747 fleet). Pity, because the insides of the aircraft were clean and colorful. The hospitality, warm.

“Indian passport holders don’t need to fill it in,” a smiling crew member giving out customs declaration forms, informed me. “Really?!” I was happy to hear that. Some benefit, no matter how small, for my obsession to retain my Indian passport during the last two decades that I have been living in the US.

 

The Homecoming

The first day was intense. Within hours of touchdown, I was in Kurukshetra, Haryana. I then managed to get my 80-year-old Mammaji admitted to a local hospital. After seeing that he had been put on dialysis, late in the day I finally relaxed, and realised how tired and hungry I was.

Representative picture of a dhaba.

I went out in the search for food with my cab driver, hoping for a drink or two as well. Ironically, on Haryana and Punjab highways, hopes of finding non-vegetarian items on the menu are next to nil, so we stopped at the inevitable Vaishno dhaba.

After ordering an array of gobhi, pyaaz and paneer parathas, the old Charanjeet in me woke up, and in chaste Punjabi, I asked the owner, “Any drink, by any chance?”

“Desi or English?” he asked without an expression on his face, looking slightly away from me. Maybe that gave him, what we call in the US, plausible deniability.

“English,” I said.

“Half or full?”

“Half,” I said.

“Sit in the car. One or two glasses?”

Charanjeet’s Uncle

 

A Shock Over the ‘Normal’

Back in Mammaji’s hospital room, there were always a couple of folks from his village visiting him.

I, who had prided myself on retaining some of my Punjabi rusticity irrespective of the time I sepnt away from my watan, could relate to much of what Mammaji’sfriends and relatives spoke about. But a couple of days into my visit, I heard a story that shook me up.

It was about an older cousin’s son. I hadn’t met or spoken to this cousin in years, son of yet another Mammaji who passed away long ago. He lives next door to the ailing Mammaji in the same village.

This cousin’s son had apparently got obsessed with a girl who was visiting the village from a nearby district to attend a family wedding. These wedding visits can last a few weeks. So he had had the time for this obsession to develop and grow.

I was told that the amourous charges kickstarted a pattern of stalking the girl and her friends, or simply leering at her. He and a small bunch of his friends made these ogling sessions a daily habit.

Elders in the village either indulged these young men, or saw nothing wrong in what they were doing quite openly. There was no reprimand. Not that the youngster needed it. They were adults, supposed to possess their own moral compass and have a certain fear of the law as well. But no. The story took a turn for the horrific.

A short while after the girl returned to her village, a group of these youngsters, my cousin’s son included, allegedly gangraped her at her home.

And the story doesn’t end here.

Soon after, not only did these men get bail after spending some time in jail, my cousin’s son, I was told, was soon engaged to another, with the wedding scheduled for later this winter. That’s how much acceptability a man accused of rape has in Indian society today.

Sure, the law says these men are not guilty until convicted. But there was a well-known history of stalking, of these men singling out that girl for their attention.

Surely, the family into which my cousin’s son would be marrying, was aware of this recent history. And yet, they were willing to push a girl from their family to spend a lifetime with such a person.

It would be silly for me to say that I wasn’t aware of other such stories. I read them in the papers when I’m here in India, I read about them on news websites when I’m in the US. But this was happening almost within immediate family.

So it shook me up a whole lot more. Suddenly, I wanted no part of this. The absence of all morality, the absence of basic respect for women, the absence of the rule of law, that allowed hooligans and perverts to run amok here. I wanted no part of it.

I was reminded of the liquor I acquired with such ease at the dhaba. Illegal again. Did this gang also prime themselves for their horrific act with some illegally purchased liquor at a similar dhaba? It bothered me that I too had ignored the law to have that drink that night.

Charanjeet’s passport with a picture without beard and turban

 

The Straw That Broke the Camel’s Back

My return flight, AI 127, was scheduled for 2:20 am a few nights later. Force of habit saw me at Delhi’s Indira Gandhi International Airport four hours before the scheduled departure. Check-in was smooth and swift.

I headed next toward the immigration section, one last bureaucratic spin before departure. When my turn came, I walked up to the officer, greeted him, and gave him my passports — old, expired, and current joined together — along with my US permanent resident card (green card).

He looked at the picture in my current passport issued in 2008 and then at me. “From where and why did you acquire this beard and turban?” he asked sternly. In the picture on the passport, I sported neither. “Meri marzi se ji,” I said smiling.

“What? Is this how you talk to Government of India?” I was stunned. What was his problem and why was he being so rude?

“How would you want me to speak and what else can I say, apart from the truth?” I said as politely as possible and volunteered to cooperate in every way if he wished to further ascertain my identity.

My green card has the current picture, and so do my US and India driver licenses, I told the officer.

I had also gone in and out of India quite a few times in exactly the same manner, with the same look. No questions asked.

The man just kept turning the pages of my passport. Then he opened the old passport and pointing to the picture, asked, “Is that you?” “Yes, in the good old days, ji,” I said, smiling in an attempt to lighten the situation. Still more squinting at me, and back at the passports.

I don’t know, maybe he was waiting for me to say something he wanted to hear. Confess to something? When that didn’t happen, he looked at me menacingly one last time, got off his seat, and disappeared.

When he returned, there were other officers with him. One of them, possibly a higher authority, went through my papers yet again, and asked, “Why didn’t you change your picture?”

“The passport is still current. It will be up for renewal next year and I will do it then,” I explained. “Don’t wait till then. Do it as soon as you can,” he advised. He wasn’t rude. “Advice appreciated,” I told him. “I will do it as soon as I have an opportunity, ji

I reached home. Of course, the US has now been home for years, but I felt it a lot more for the first time then.

Normally, this psychological feeling of having a part of me planted here and another in India, has not been hard to handle. I had run my software testing business originally from the US, but later added a branch at Bangalore as well. I had shut down the Bangalore end after 10 years, beaten down by red tape. Even that had not dampened my affection for my watan.

But, something did change within me during this visit that lasted less than a week. The intangible umbilical cord got cut, and I’ve finally gone ahead and applied for my new Amriki passport.

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This column was published online by www.thequint.com on March 20.

With U.S. Senator Chris Coons

With U.S. Senator Chris Coons

A true leader, which Senator Coons is, can keenly listen and converse with all. It may not have been so difficult in this case because both knew each other since Jasmine had interned in the Senator’s office in the summer.

Jasmine Kaur Minhas, my daughter, greeting and garlanding Delaware’s US Senator, Chris Coons. She was also the program manager of the event—the job she did with a finesse par excellence.

Be Educated Movement

Be Educated Movement

I am proud of my daughter Jasmine Kaur Minhas who collaborated with the awesome Be Educated Movement- founded and operated by my dear friends Sanjay and Mahender from last 16 yrs- to open a Towerhill Library in Sindh Pakistan.

Did India Win Independence?

Did India Win Independence?

My father joined the Indian Army in 1948, a year after British India was sliced in two. The earth around him shook, not from the impact of five rivers, but from the numerous blood rivulets that flowed through the furrows of the Punjab’s fields, bazaars, children’s playgrounds, and streets and gushed from the Punjabi homes’ brick drains. It was alleged that it was the climax of the English colonial chess stratagem: Divide and Rule.

“Why did the earth shake?” I remember asking him some years after he had retired.

“Freedom fighters worshipped Mother India and gave their blood and lives as an offering to her,” he said, “but there were others who never took any pain in doing anything for the country — and had enjoyed their time behind the cover of religion. When the British decided to free India, these religionists forced a historic paradox: freedom fighters, dead and alive, were defeated by their own countrymen, by these religionists who were determined to operate on the mother and create another one out of her.”

“How did they do it?” I wanted to know. He didn’t answer for some time.

“August was running as always but this time, just when it reached the middle of its run when forefather Time raised both hands and united them, the Mohammeds and the Mahatmas and the Pandits of British India began the surgery to create two mothers from one. They started to amputate the body parts of the existing mother. However, they took care of only those parts they had a sense of belonging to. They only put those areas under the knife that had already been donating blood for the country,” my father replied, voice breaking.

“Why didn’t the Punjabis and Bengalis take precautions?” I asked wisely.

“We are one people, one country, we were told by them through powerful and seductive slogans that proved to be empty rhetoric,” he responded. “We were asked to stay put in our homes in the warmth and security of our ancestral places. Then, suddenly, the surgery began: no anesthesia, no tranquilizers. The separation started, and with it came the rapes, looting, and macabre killings, and we could see the remnants of hundreds of thousands of our people lying strewn about by the time it was over.

“In a matter of hours and days, kaka, millions were made refugees, tens of thousands were raped, and hundreds of thousands were killed. Grandfathers, fathers, and brothers were so helpless that in some cases, in acts of mercy, they themselves killed the women of the family. It was a pain those leaders never felt and the world has been never told about.”

The successors they mentored corrected the mistake by slicing it again to create the third mother in 1971-72. English and the “Divide and Rule” doctrine had certainly survived, even though the Englishmen had left.

If you thought that was enough, no; they weren’t done yet.

One of India’s Prime Ministers, their progeny again, almost succeeded in slicing the mother country yet again. Thirty-seven years later, while justifying a state-sponsored Sikh genocide to avenge his mother’s assassination, Rajiv Gandhi said, “When a big tree falls, the earth shakes.” That the “Divide and Rule” was clearly on his mind, before and at the time he said it, and on the minds of the coterie around him, was clear from the election results. 1n the December 1984 polling, only six weeks after the Sikh genocide, Gandhi’s Congress Party won a thumping majority of 404 out of 533 seats.

Whenever my father narrated the partition tales, he would invariably say, “When the British freed India…” That was different from blood-stirring tales of freedom and struggle I had read about and heard in speeches on TV. Thinking about it later made me curious, and I decided to do some research. It didn’t take me long to understand why he said what he said.

The colonies in Asia and elsewhere were the result of European imperialism. The two world wars in the last century had weakened them economically. The wars also produced the arrival of two more giants on the global scene: the United States and the USSR. The Second World War also shattered the impregnability aura that had haloed the British Empire earlier. The defeat of colonial powers by Nazi Germany at many places had fatally undermined the myth. Japan took over colonies in Southeast Asia during the war. In many colonies, as in the case of India, too, the rulers had made promises of independence to nationalists in return for their help in the war.

India’s first Sainik School (changed into a public school soon after) founded in Nabha was the result of such economic inducement promised by the British to Punjab in exchange for military recruitment.  I know because I went to that boarding school. The Punjab Public School (PPS), established in 1960, is widely known today for sending most commissioned officers — outside of RMS, Dehradun — to the Indian armed forces.

On June 2, 2012, I hosted a very well-attended reunion in Delaware of PPS alumni from across the United States, Canada and India. At that time, PPS’s first alumnus became India’s army chief. The newly minted Gen. Bikram Singh called in from New Delhi to thank the alumni and add to our festive spirit.

Here, in this school, I lived, played and studied with students from J&K, UP, Bihar, Bengal, Assam and many other parts of India. The school sent me regularly on travels and treks to many far-flung places in India — both remote and metropolitan. Providing us students with opportunities to learn from adventure and acclimatization was the school’s underlying mantra for a classy education.

The hymn made a home in my heart. No surprise, then, that my Bharat darshan continued after PPS. I enjoyed living in different parts of India for work, studies, and business, and, in the last two decades, showing my US-born children one of the oldest civilizations on the planet.

It is my love for this land even with its open sewers beggars—that I still remain its citizen so many years after I became a permanent resident of the US. The US is a great country and I love it, but cannot abandon the mother in whose lap I was raised.

Earlier, when I was single, and after I returned to India from the UK with a master’s degree in business to complement my computer engineering studies, I worked in Bangalore and Hyderabad before coming to the US in 1999. Tekstrom, the software testing company that I founded on arrival presently has a campus in Bangalore.

My conclusions from long and wide-ranging experience tell me that the English still rule our nation even though there are no English in India’s government, parliament, and judiciary. If anything, the inequity has become more rampant and flagrant. The mental slavery still persists. An Indian is happily obsequious to a white while he finds it back-bending to respect a colored. This is not only on display back in India but is visible among migrated Indians here in the US as well.

A few months ago, the governments of 40 African countries condemned the Indian government for the growing racial and xenophobic attacks on Africans in India. Let me remind you that the imperialism of the past which India is celebrating its 70th year of independence from was similarly racist.

To put our independence, and its track record since 1947, in perspective, remember that India was once solidly against apartheid in South Africa: something for which India paid a heavy economic price. Recall Mahatma Gandhi’s South African sojourn!

At 70, we are no longer an infant democracy. However, we are still like that elephant, the one India has historically been compared to, the elephant that moves slowly because it is carrying too much potential. Since independence, its movement is becoming even slower, perhaps because the untapped potential is becoming larger.

Except in cricket, the game the Englishmen gave their colonies, including India, we have no commanding presence in any sports discipline. During the Raj, we were undisputed world field hockey champions. The two Noble prizes we won during the Raj were in Literature and Science; and far less apart from each other are the two we won in the last 70 years — both Peace Prizes. We are still ignorant of punctuality etiquette and that is true of Indians regardless of where they live. We are never in a hurry to fulfill our promises.

Justice is almost at a standstill in India despite the fact that India supplies the largest pool of computer software labor to advanced countries. During colonial rule a case used to be decided in 10 years. Last year, chief justice of India, Justice Thakur, lamented that, “Now, cases and litigation have increased. People’s expectations have also gone up. It is all becoming very difficult for us and this is why I have repeatedly urged them (government) to pay attention to these problems.”

To make the matters worse, law and order is almost absent in India. Who knows better than the NRIs whose properties in India are always greedily eyed by unscrupulous elements? In my case, someone occupied a vacant plot my father had bought in Punjab decades before he passed away, and my continuing ordeal to vacate the completely illegitimate occupation by total strangers is beyond the scope of this piece.

The powerful can get away with threatening, looting, raping, beating, and killing. Perpetrators of 1984 Sikh genocide still haven’t been punished. They have been honored, given high positions, and publicly feted.  We are still not a casteless society as was envisaged. It is still either a curse or an entitlement depending on the last-name of the parents who gave you life.

Gender discrimination is practiced at all levels almost openly. Some parents still advocate killing a female child before or after birth. Many have experience doing it. The instances of rape and rape threats are increasing at an alarming rate. Even when the daughter of an army officer killed on the border dares to speak, she is openly threatened with rape. It is alleged that the present ruling party has an exclusive troll army to beleaguer and threaten those who dare to speak against them and their policies. A husband or boyfriend may incur the ire of India’s “morality brigades” if they even hold their partner’s hand in public. When watching a movie those who don’t get up in cinemas when the national anthem is played may be in for a “quick lesson” in patriotism.

Only law enforcement and bureaucracy match the media’s probity in India.

With disappearing internal security, the security at the borders too has become iffy. Pakistan-sponsored jihadis easily sneak in and indulge in violent activities and inciting violence. Their penetration and reach is growing deeper with time. Their attacks have ranged from J&K to the parliament to hotels and bakeries. More recently they have blatantly attacked military bases and city police stations.

Our ongoing historic feud with Pakistan has cost us dearly in many ways. And if our ability to contain tiny Pakistan is an indication, imagine our future with colossal China, which is seemingly in a mood to throw its weight around because it doesn’t think much of India and its current leadership.

If the Indian government can suddenly demonetize the existing currency, and not worry even a bit about the inconvenience and scores of deaths in its wake, why can it not control population? This is India’s number one problem, and I can’t respect, or consider honest, any Indian leader who is not in favor of promulgating population control with equal vehemence.

The day Indians gain the ability to shun and shoo politicians who use caste, language, religion, river waters, gender, reservation, and other divisive vote bank tactics, is when India will have indeed won independence. That day India will be the Kohinoor of the world. It will be that precious golden sparrow it once was. Until then, my each heartbeat will hum the legendary words of Gurudev:

“Where the mind is without fear and the head is held high

Where knowledge is free

Where the world has not been broken up into fragments…

Into that heaven of freedom, my father, let my country awake.”

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This column was published online by the www.setumag.com on Sept 02 2017.